Category Archives: Journalism

I write about life on Long Island on the North Fork and the Hamptons.

The Jewish Standard’s Joanne Palmer covers UnPregnant Pause

I worked for the Standard for a number of years and had a great experience there. I interviewed local heroes, outstanding students, and some national as well as international figures. They sent me to interview Leah Rabin and Mario Cuomo! Those were exciting conversations. And now their editor-in-chief, Joanne Palmer, has interviewed me!

Thanks to Joanne for writing a really lovely piece. It’s nice to be back in The Jewish Standard again. Read it here

Annie & Me, Huffpo50

Check out my blogpost for December, 2015 Read this

This was the kind of post that just pours out. Every year, around the holidays, I take stock of who and what I am most grateful for. I review the list of friends who have grown dearer and examine why some have drifted away. I take the time to look back in December, before I step into the new year and move forward.

Annie & Me reflects a relationship I continually re-examine and serves as a reminder that not everyone wants the same thing out of a friendship. It is a good lesson for me.

 

Me & Alice Bloom

Debbie with TV host Alice Bloom, A Town ... and Village Two, LMC-TV

Debbie with TV host Alice Bloom, A Town … and Village Two, LMC-TV

I had a great conversation with host Alice Bloom on A Town and Village… Two. Check out the show:

Debbie Slevin & Alice Bloom talk about Slevin’s new book UnPregnant Pause: Where Are The Babies

“Produced and hosted by Alice Bloom, A Town and Village Two is a half hour interview format featuring leaders in the arts, education, business and public service; and, organizations that enhance the quality of life in our communities.

In addition to broadcast on LMCTV, A Town and Village Two is broadcast widely in Westchester and in Manhattan — all on non-commercial, public access stations.”

TV and Bookstores!

Having fun at appearances

At Sirius XM Doctor Radio with Dr. Miriam Greene, host of Gynecology and Sexual Health Show

At Sirius XM Doctor Radio with Dr. Miriam Greene, host of Sexual Health & Gynecology  Show

I have been having a great time meeting and speaking with book store personnel and radio and TV hosts as we discuss UnPregnant Pause: Where Are the Babies? It’s all about the people you meet along your journey.

Reading from UnPregnant Pause at Barnes & Noble, Paramus, NJ

Reading from UnPregnant Pause at Barnes & Noble, Paramus, NJ. Thanks to Store Manager Marc Fabian

Debbie with TV host Alice Bloom, A Town ... and Village Two, LMC-TV

Debbie with TV host Alice Bloom, A Town … and Village Two, LMC-TV

Call Me Granny, Huffpo50 blogpost

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/debbie-slevin/call-me-granny_b_8514140.html

I had so much fun writing this piece. Being a grandma really takes me back to my early days as a mom- but with more sleep and sit-down meals.

I finally understand why fertility ends at a certain point. You just CAN’T do it full time with creaking knees and achy backs. And yes- needing reading glasses to see the Baby Tylenol label!

Each stage of life has its joys (and sorrows) and I am soaking up the pleasures of being a grandmother.

Saving Grace, 2nd place winner, Dan’s Literary Contest 2015

Saving Grace

A perfectly placid day at the beach; it is the reason I live not far from the pristine shores of the Atlantic, where Long Island narrows, then disappears into the voracious ocean. It is the only sunny day of the July 4th weekend. Under a big floppy sunhat, I am engrossed in a novel, a respite from work. It is hot. The air is infused with the smell of suntan lotion, celebration and sweat. This is summer.

 My reverie is interrupted by a commotion at the water’s edge. The lifeguards have mobilized. And not just a few. Two are in the water, crashing through waves with tomato red floats strapped to their bodies. A boat is launched. The other guards run swiftly through the sand and climb the stand that has just been vacated. The lifeguard in the water, a young woman with a mass of dark hair pulled back in a messy bun, plunges headfirst through the underside of a wave while her trusty sidekick, who appears to be more boy than man, follows. Their synchronicity makes them look like dolphins on display.

 It is quickly apparent to everyone on the beach that this in no drill. There are a number of people caught in a strangling riptide. They are struggling. I try to count – one… two… I think there are at least four. Wait! There are five. I see a young boy in a green-patterned swim shirt. He is small enough to be mistaken for floating algae and he is paddling hard to mount the wave. His dad is struggling to get to him, waving at the guards. I watch with horror as he goes under again. I am sure I can actually see the fear in his eyes beneath the clear water as the sun hits the wave. The beach is suddenly very quiet. People move from their chairs and towels to the water’s edge. Eyes wide, hands covering mouths, we are all focused on the distance between the lifeguard and the boy. Swim, I think. Swim, I say out loud, urging her on.

 How does she gauge the distance between herself and the boy from within the water? How does she keep her eye on the mark while swimming against the current, as they all drift west? It is a terrifying display of courage and daring. It is both overwhelming and thrilling, as I believe she will get to him in time. She has been trained for this.

 I watch a yellow towrope spool out behind her. There are three strong male guards on the shore, the rope coursing through their palms, feeding it into the water as she tries to close the distance between herself and the boy. The last guard has the cord wrapped around his torso. I can tell the strength of the current by how deeply it cuts into his flesh.

 Beyond the breaking waves, a guard in a kayak paddles hard, flanking the distressed swimmers. A huge wave is cresting behind him. The people on the beach take a collective breath in and hold it. We see what they cannot. It is going to curl right over the heads of the boy, his dad, and the others caught in the clutch of the riptide.

 The wave stretches blue-gray satin toward the sky, its ragged edge glistening. The guard in the kayak must feel the swell in his body. He pivots, his muscles ripple, and he navigates through just in time. But the wave crashes down on the boy, still yards from the lifeguard. For several very long seconds, no one moves. The moment is frozen, as are we, the spectators of potential disaster. Our chests hurt with the air we are still holding inside, waiting.

 The water recedes and the guard emerges from beneath with the boy on her back, clinging to her shoulders. There is an audible release of breath as her strong arms stroke towards the shore, the towrope guiding her in. Several other guards are there to meet her and take the boy. He is not hurt. He turns and looks out to the water, regards it coolly. Does he understand how close he has come? His father follows on his own accord; he is breathing hard. The relief on his face as he walks through the wet sand to his son is as evident as his exhaustion. He puts a hand on the boy’s shoulder, pulls him close. He nods at the lifeguards, raises a hand in gratitude.

 But there is no time for the guards to rehash the rescue. There are still people in the water, other guards battling the current. One by one, three people are extricated from the riptide. One young woman has her arms around the guard’s neck, her legs scissored into a lock across his hips. The water is only knee-high, but she cannot let go. The lifeguard gently untangles her, sets her on the sand and reassures her that she is safe.

 I want to applaud as the last person emerges from the ocean. I look around. Nobody else feels the urge to clap for the daring troop of lifeguards. People weave their way between the blankets and umbrellas to their own encampment. They will tell the story over barbeque grills and restaurant tables that night. They will recount the bravery of the guards and that moment when no one was quite sure of the outcome.

I am sure this scene occurs many times during the summer but I am not sure how many of us express our appreciation. So this is my shout-out to you, Hampton Lifeguards. You protect us- all of us: the over powered, the surprised, the drunks who are too far gone to know better, and even the idiots out beyond their capabilities. You watch over our children, the flesh of our heritage. I put my hands together and applaud you. You are brave, diligent, courageous and beautiful to look at. You keep us safe. Thank you. We should all thank you. I hope you can hear me clapping.

 

 

 

Beach Art, winning essay for LI Litfest: Word Up!

Reading my essay at Gould Castle in Sands Point, NY May 30, 2015 photo credit: Jeff Slevin

Reading my essay at Gould Castle in Sands Point, NY May 30, 2015
photo credit: Jeff Slevin

BEACH ART

by Debbie Slevin

First published July 4th issue, Dan’s Papers Literary Contest 2012

I bought a painting recently in Philadelphia. It’s a beachy picture of a woman and her dog. They are walking along the sand at sundown. There is only a hint of delineation- they are just a few strokes at the end of a cove- but they appear through the floating palette the way people do in watercolors. Like ghosts in dreams. Yet real as memory.

It appealed to me immediately and I stood in front of it a long time as other browsers at the art fair crossed my line of vision, wove around me. I moved it into the sun, viewed it in the shadows, from across the sidewalk. It felt so personal. It stirred something deep. “It’s a beach in Montauk,” the artist said. “Montauk- that’s on Long Island.” I know where Montauk is, I told him, and I know this beach.

I have photographs. I have walked alone there many times as I have sorted out the tangled strings of my life and re-rolled them into a useful little ball. I have taken many pictures of other people at this spot. But only in twos. I am interested in relationships Their relationship to each other: do they sit close? Do they touch? And their relationship to the sea. I take pictures of their backs while they look out to the water. I imagine their stories but I don’t want to see the lifelines on their faces. I don’t want to intrude and I don’t want to know their sorrow. If I know it, I will own it, and I have had enough sorrow of my own. I come to the beach to set it down for a while.

My favorite photo is of two bikers sitting on a driftwood log, their broad bare backs to the sun, a big bulldog between them. One man fondles the dog’s ear. They are at peace in that singular moment. Another is of a young couple. His hand holds the end of the long black braid that grazes the bare skin at her waist, peeking through her sari. He does not touch her body. Their heat is palpable, their patience evident. They are content to co-exist and wait.

This is why I come to the beach: to find that singular moment, if only for a moment.

I have reached that time in my life where I see the finite everywhere. Good friends die. People move away or don’t care or can’t forgive. Children grow up. Rather than be frightened, I am choosing to stop and regard each particular instant, to try and drain it of every possibility before it fades. Soak it up. Absorb it. “Life turns on a dime,” my husband is fond of saying, and that dime is spinning so much faster these days. The beach slows it; it reminds me that I am but another speck of sand in the eternal tides. That this life – my life- is part of the continuum. It makes me more accepting of what is, more grateful and less afraid.

I have been coming to the Long Island beaches for most of my life. And now I finally have a home of my own here among the sand and seagulls. It is a huge life-shift and a series of tradeoffs. Being blessed but not wealthy, I gave up the home in which I raised my children (when they heard the plan was a beach house they actually started packing!) I left the neighborhood of my youth and told my friends I would see them less often, hoping the lure of the sea would bring them to me.

Having a career that still necessitates city time, we maintain a small home ‘in the real world’ but the ties loosen with each passing season. I don’t want to miss the blooming of the magnolia trees the kids gave us as a housewarming gift. Or the asparagus at the farmer’s market. And the tomatoes need pruning. The kayaks are waiting. Pumpkins. Thanksgiving pies. A prediction of snow.

Another season is whirling by- I am thinking about a Labor Day BBQ and it is not yet 4th of July. I am worrying about how to hold on to it, slow it down, take the time to really see each passing day. I hold my new painting in my hands and look at it. I am the woman on the beach. That is my dog. Those pastels have replaced the vibrant colors of my youth. I mark its place on the wall, the wall of my longed-for beach house, and I drive in the nail. I set my painting in a place of pride to remind me that at day’s end, I, too might walk gently into the sunset.